Indiana made it more difficult today for ministers performing same sex weddings, but elsewhere across the country beautiful wedding ceremonies for same-sex couples happen every day. Here are some same sex wedding vows from Revs. Grant and Renate Ann Diversa in San Diego http://www.abeautifulceremony.us/vows_weddingvows.htm. While they are not Unitarian Universalists, we Unitarian Universalists affirm their commitment to marriage equality. Of course, these vows can be altered for straight couples as well.
I, ________, in the name of the spirit of the Divine which resides within us all, by the life that courses within my blood, and the love that resides within my heart, take you, ________, to my hand, my heart, and my spirit to be my chosen one. To desire and be desired by you, without sin or shame, for none can exist in the purity of my love for you. I promise to love you wholly and completely without restraint, in sickness and in health, in plenty and in poverty, in life and beyond, where we will meet, remember, and love again.
________, I stand here, today, in front of our friends and our family, to make these promises to you. I promise to love you passionately in the good times and the bad times. To always put your needs and desires before my own. I promise to respect you and give you the time and attention that you deserve. I promise to keep an open mind and an open heart to the changes life might bring to us. To never tear down your hopes and dreams. I promise to keep our relationship alive and exciting, filled with imagination, joy, and strength. To never have a dull moment. I promise to grow along with you and never keep my secrets and my fears away from you. I promise to be the best friend to you that you have and continue to be to me. I promise to give you all of me and to never hold anything back. These are my promises to you. I am yours completely and forever.
________, on this special day as we become partners in life, before our family, our friends, and each other, I make these commitments of my own free will. I promise to take you in to my heart, as you are, and as you will become. I promise to walk by your side and support your dreams, I will express my thoughts and emotions to you and listen to you in times of joy and in times of sorrow. I promise to be your best friend and companion on the road of life. I will help you fulfill your dreams, and be sensitive to the cares of your heart. I want to spend the rest of my life hearing your thoughts and seeing your dreams come true. I will travel with you through all of life’s journeys. And I, ________, want you, ________, to be my companion throughout our journey of life.
I, ________, take you ________, to be my partner in life, my best friend in life and my one true love. I will cherish our marriage and love you more each day than I did the day before. I will trust you, respect you, laugh with you and cry with you, loving you faithfully through good times and bad, regardless of the obstacles we may face together. I give you my hand, my heart and my love, from this day forward, as long as we both shall live.
________, today I join my life to yours, not only as your partner, but as your friend, your lover and your confidant. Let me be the shoulder that you lean on, the rock upon which you rest, the companion of your life. With you I will walk my path from this day forward.
________, today I commit to our life partnership. I promise to comfort you, to encourage you in all walks of life. I promise to express my thoughts and emotions to you and to listen to you in times of joy and in times of sorrow. ________, I love you, and you are my closest friend. Will you let me share my life and all that I am with you? (I will.)
I come here today, ________, to join my life to yours before this company. In their presence I pledge to be true to you, to respect you, and to grow with you through the years. Time may pass, fortune may smile, trials may come; no matter what we may encounter together, I vow here that this love will be my only love. I will make my home in your heart, from this day forward.
As freely as God has given me life, I join my life to yours. Wherever you go, I will go. Whatever you face, I will face. In good or ill, in happiness or sadness, come riches or poverty, I take you as my partner for life, and I will give myself to no other.